We all want to feel validated but realizing our own limitations can prevent us from accepting how fucking amazing we are. You can stop that asshole inner critic by trying to approve yourself instead of seeking it from others with this simple change in mindset.
We can't help what other people think of our lives, bodies, and careers but owning your story is the bravest and the best thing you can do for your mental health. At that moment when you feel scared of what people might think rise above it by becoming your own cheerleader. Remind yourself of how far you've come and be grateful for what you have.
If you need a bigger push, take this idea a bit farther by writing a list of all the things you are proud of accomplishing even if they seem tiny at first. Even better if you add to this list daily and place it in a predominate place so you can see it when you need it.
I know the pressure of being seen and liked can feel overwhelming. So next time you wish someone would validate you, live in that moment awhile and know that it's just you being human. Take all those awful things your inner critic is saying and spin it by saying the opposite.
Something I say to myself almost every day is, “I am beautiful. I can do this. I'm proud of where I am.” I know it seems too easy but it really helps me in my lowest moments. This mantra reminds me that I don’t need your compliments to be happy.
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